How do you a toddler to stay with a new babysitter?
breezy122885 asked:
My daughter is used to being watched by a family member. Due to some scedule conflicts we have had to find a new babysitter for the longest day that we need he to be watched. The first day we tried to leave her with the new babysitter she freaked out. We are not able to leave her there right now because she just screams and freaks out. So.. How do you get a child used to the new babysitter and get her to be okay wiht staying there?
My daughter is used to being watched by a family member. Due to some scedule conflicts we have had to find a new babysitter for the longest day that we need he to be watched. The first day we tried to leave her with the new babysitter she freaked out. We are not able to leave her there right now because she just screams and freaks out. So.. How do you get a child used to the new babysitter and get her to be okay wiht staying there?
she’s throwing a temper tantrum. deal with that accordingly
have the babysitter over and tell her to give the toddler a horseback ride, he/she will love the sitter instantly – worked for me.
Sometimes you just have to let them cry it out.
invite the babysitter over to your house for a snack or with your child or take her to the sitter on a day that you are off for an hour or so, so that she can get use to her
may be try to stay with the babysitter and your baby together for several times, gradually decreasing the time to be involved. Let her know the babysitter more before just left her to the babysitter, then she won’t be in such a shock.
I would have the babysitter visit a few times while I was still home. Also, you may try having the babysitter meet you at a park or inside playground. Perhaps after a few visits with you there, your toddler will begin to feel more comfortable with the new babysitter.
if your sitter cannot calm the child down with some of her own experience dealing with kids you may have the wrong sitter. and you can have the sitter try your place 1st, because it may not be the sitter but rather the place she is not accustomed to so if it works at your place then after 2 weeks try the sitters place
Just an FYI:Research says that children who throw tantrams when being left by the parents will grow up to be insecure and dependent. Those that don’t are comfortable and will be extraverted and leaders.
The first day when she “freaked out” did you leave her anyway or could you not stand her crying so you didn’t leave her? I suspect the latter, which is why she “freaks out” again and again. I know it’s hard to listen to her cry for you but it will not kill her to be left crying. She is going to have to learn that just because you leave doesn’t mean that you are not coming back which is the issue she is dealing with. It’s a trust thing for her.
Get the child interested in something then get out of her line of sight talking soothingly while retreating then leave. She will only cry for only a short time if at all. Stand out of her sight for 15 minutes go back in and get her to show her that yes, mom will return. Do this several times over a couple of days and she will finally get it.
Give her time, children need time some one week some a few days. Sometimes the separation is harder for the adult than for the child. Drop her and leave the longer you stay the harder it will be.
get your child use to being around other people.Have the babysitter come around more often and don’t let your child see you go out the door when you leave.Give your child his or her favorite toy to keep them occupied for a few minutes.
i take it slow have the baby sitter there day u can be with them and then slowly leave a few minutes then come back keep repeating and soon they be fine with the baby sitter and then reward with good behavior.