How do you feel about potluck receptions?
January 28, 2010 by Blessings From Home
Filed under Cooking & Recipes
Meadows-Phillips is a mouthful asked:
How do you feel about potluck receptions? Are they acceptable in say a laid-back and low-cost wedding, or are they never acceptable?
How do you feel about potluck receptions? Are they acceptable in say a laid-back and low-cost wedding, or are they never acceptable?
Thanks!
they are acceptable and i really like the idea. there was this one show where friends would plan a wedding for a close friend with the help of a wedding planner for less than five thousand dollars. a lot of the episodes had potluck receptions and they all turned out really nice.
Your wedding, but you want your guests to bring food, uncool.
I don’t think they are ever acceptable. Asking your guests to bring a dish to pass is tacky in my opinion. You can always have your Mother and a few other women in your family help you prepare a large meal for a more laid back wedding. Congrats!
Totally awesome, but where I live its not considered proper
So I guess it depends where you live, and your company. For example, my mom had a potluck reception, but in those days, it was more common. Overall though, its up to you! Don’t worry about what other people say – everyone always has an opinion about every little thing you do! So do what you want! 
Good luck!
invite:
hey come to my wedding bring me a gift and also please bring the food to feed us! thanks
bride and groom.
to me it’s not ok. i know some people who have done it, but i felt so used. if its a money issue keep it to an evening after dinner reception and serve wine and cheese and crackers, and deserts etc. potlucks are ok for family holidays, and block parties. not weddings.
I guess it depends on where your from.
In Ohio every occasion is a potluck occasion.
Where I live, it’s completely unheard of to host a potluck anything. The closet I’ve come to potluck, is when I asked a friend if I could make a dish to bring to her picnic last summer. I wanted to be nice and add an extra side to her menu. But, I wasn’t asked to do so. I offered to be polite.
But, based on my upbringing, it’s never acceptable. If you’re hosting people, you’re feeding them. They aren’t feeding themselves. Plus, potlucks can be problematic. Who brings what? What if your Great Aunt Mary wants to make the main dish, but everyone knows she a horrible cook. You get the idea
So, I’m thumbs downing potluck. It’s not acceptable, at least not here anyway. If the budgets tight, ask a few close (and I mean, very close) friends or relatives (maybe 4 at the most) to help you prepare your wedding menu.
I think asking a guest, particularly if they came from out of town, to bring a dish to a wedding is not the best idea. Going to a wedding while fun takes time in itself, not to mention bringing something to eat for everyone. If this is the only way to do it, a better idea would be perhaps to have very close family and friends help you make food for the wedding or just have a heavy appetizer reception with cake and punch. That would be totally acceptable.
When my cousin got married he couldn’t afford to go all out so to save money he had a potluck deal for his reception. Worked out great, was a lot of fun and he saved a lot of money that way. So I would say that it is completely acceptable. Good Luck!
It’s just fine. Especially for a low-cost wedding. Just make sure that where ever you get married they accept potluck receptions.
But as I said it’s very cost efficient. And that way you can make sure that your guests at least like one thing on the buffet. Congrats on your wedding, hun.
My fiance and I are doing our own food items and what not, but I actually had my cousin, FMIL, 2 aunts and another cousin offer to bring something and I said sure. I wouldn’t ask them to, but if they offer I’m fine with it. I feel that it would be rude to turn down a generous gesture, and I told them that if they needed any help with anything to just give me a call.
I’m making chocolate dipped/drizzled orange slices for my friends wedding, their colors are orange and brown..
I think it can be awesome because people care and sometimes food is a great way to show that. Plus It’s down to earth and not all big fancy and oppressing..
the whole point is being MARRIED and having a nice little party after wards for your families to get to know eachother.
what would relatives/friends do if they came from out of town and were staying at a hotel? they would have to go out and buy food to bring?
might as well just do that yourself.
i think is kool but ull b better providing all food!!!!…. BBQ sounds good too
Never acceptable. The host cannot ask the guests to provide the food. The host should be treating the guests, not the other way around.
I think in some lower socioeconomic cultures they are acceptable.
nevar acceptable
I think it depends on where you live and how many people from out of town are coming. Maybe it’s best to ask the people that you are close to that live nearby to bring a dish. People coming in from out of town won’t be able to bring anything and you don’t want them to feel bad
They are perfectly acceptable and a great idea to boot!