Dealing with Disagreement
May 2, 2012 by
Filed under Marriage
My husband and I just had an interesting conversation about a certain theology. We haggled back and forth about all kinds of perspectives and that sent us back to look more thoroughly at the Word. For us this is not a terribly difficult thing. It’s actually more of a fun thing because we are becoming less invested in being “right.” We aim to grow in our knowledge of the Truth, holding most things lightly so that God can teach us and grow us up.
It hasn’t always been this way. I made “being sensitive” a way of life early on and it took some growing up and toughening up to get to the point where I can discuss differences more comfortably. My sweetie used to be a “black and white” kind of guy (and, boy howdy, you better know the difference!). Being married to me, helped him soften a bit and learn to speak his perspectives in love. It’s been a journey and one we’re still growing in.
Can you and your husband disagree agreeably? Can you view differences as an opportunity to grow and understand each other better? If disagreements are painful, why not talk to your husband about how to disagree and still be teammates (rather than adversaries).
In essentials, unity; in non-essentials, liberty; in all things, charity. Author Unknown
I feel like a broken record, but The 3rd Alternative (aff link) really is a good resource for dealing respectfully with conflict.
This is a must-read article (I don’t say that very often, but I think the point made here is very important) ~ Loving your spouse the way they need to be loved (from Re-Load)
Read and learn ~ Which Of The Seven Deadly Money Mistakes Do You Make? (from Black and Married with Kids)
