How to Say Yes to Change
On my Frequently Asked Questions page of this site, I used to list reasons I refuse to review the various books publicists want me to write about. For instance, I mentioned that I don’t respond to emails that are not addressed to me by name because that tells me that the publicist didn’t take the time to figure out what my name actually is. I also don’t respond to emails that look as if some of the content has been cut and pasted into a form letter. And I don’t respond to pitches for dating books because, well, it should be obvious, shouldn’t it?
I ended up deleting all of that information, though, after someone wrote to me and told me that my FAQ made me seem arrogant. I admit that I probably wrote them while I was in a bad mood. Lesson learned.
At any rate, when Alex Blackwell wrote and asked me if I would review his new book Saying Yes to Change, I immediately responded, “Of course!” That’s because I’m friendly with Alex in an Internet sort of way. We’ve never met in real life, but I know what he’s about because I’ve read his site. He’s about spreading happiness. That’s a goal I can firmly get behind.
In his book Saying Yes to Change, Alex shares a journey–his own–of an ordinary person who could have gone on to live a life of loneliness. An overachiever and workaholic, Alex one day found himself at midlife, and he was feeling empty. His wife was about to leave him. He was distant from his children. He felt like an outcast who was trying desperately to find a connection. He was fearful, unsatisfied, and disconnected.
Then he went to a Breakthrough seminar, one that taught him that change is always possible. That seminar led him to change his life for the better, starting with his marriage.
In Saying Yes to Change, Alex offers 10 lessons that can help anyone embrace change. Each lesson flows in a logical order, and they come complete with touching stories from Alex’s life along with specific tips and strategies. It’s the kind of book one can and should read one lesson at a time, consider its message and put it into practice before moving onto the next. Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book:
“We’re used to looking at a situation and seeing the negative. We wish our parents had done things differently. We wish people understood us better. We wish it wasn’t such a struggle to accept what we have and find joy in the everyday. But we have the ability to create our own reality.”
“Thankfully, no challenge I’ve faced so far has killed me. But being made stronger isn’t a given. It’s a choice.”
“My extraordinary life will not be counted in the currency of money or status. I have a different plan in mind. My plan is just to be extraordinarily Alex–and that is more than enough.”
I don’t think anyone could say it better. It’s a wonderful book, the kind that will help you to appreciate what’s most important in life and to walk away from what’s not important at all. If you are at a crossroads, definitely pick it up. This book will help lead you down the right path.
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